Find Out Your Self-Esteem and Learn How You Can Boost It
Self-Esteem is what we think of ourselves and how much we value our existence.
You send a text to your best friend on a not a very good day of your life, and your friend ignores you. How’d that feel? The chances are high that you will feel a shock first. Then your heart will be shattered. And then, you will start having different thoughts in your mind. The third phase is the time when you can measure your Self-Esteem Quotient.
Keep the above scenario in mind and try to go more practical. The type of thoughts your 3 lbs complex organ brews tells the level of your self-esteem. On the basis of your friendship, you probably will have the following things in mind after not getting any reply:
“Did I do anything wrong to him?”
“He is ignoring me.”
“He must be at something urgent right now.”
“I think he has changed his priorities.”
“He must be driving.”
“He doesn’t want to talk to me anymore.”
You may get similar views in mind because that’s how a bond of relation works. There is expectation, compassion, empathy, sincerity, and fear associated with love. You start expecting at least emotions in return once you start loving someone. But here your one text message hasn’t got any reply. You might go crazy for just that.
Your beliefs are based upon your self-esteem. The more positive thoughts pop up as a reaction, the higher your self-esteem is. And vice versa. To know what’s the condition of your self-esteem, you have to focus on your thoughts that are triggered by other people’s influence.
Let’s now categorise those 6 thoughts that are probable of getting into your head.
High Self-Esteem
When you texted your best friend, he saw the message but didn’t reply to you. Your message was just like any other day, but today, this strange thing happened. First, you waited for a reply, but when you reached the end of your rope, you started having the following thoughts:
“He must be driving.”
“He must be at something urgent right now.”
These kinds of thoughts show that your self-esteem is high. You are neither questioning yourself nor devaluing your worth. Having high self-esteem makes you think clearly and be optimistic.
Moderate Self-Esteem
Just after you send the message and do not get a reply, you start sweating. Now you are having thoughts like:
“Did I do anything wrong to him?”
That’s moderate self-esteem. You doubt yourself even though you haven’t done anything wrong. You are blaming yourself that because of you, your friend is not giving you a reply. Your actions or words might have hurt him sometime in the past.
Moderate self-esteem makes you question your deeds. From the spiritual context, it’s good to introspect. But questioning yourself to such an extent that you start having doubt about your character, faith, or purpose can lead you to depression.
Low Self-Esteem
Once you don’t get a reply from your friend, you start disparaging yourself. The mind then goes like this.
“He is ignoring me.”
“I think he has changed his priorities.”
“He doesn’t want to talk to me anymore.”
In low self-esteem, the mind tries to belittle your own existence. You become sorrowful and target yourself of being of little to no worth. The behaviour caused by low self-esteem crushes your charisma. You kill yourself from the inside, and the end result makes you a happiness-deprived person. You start to seek attention and become highly vulnerable from the lowest quality of abhor and criticism.
How to Boost Self-Esteem?
If you have successfully evaluated where does your self-esteem lie from the above 3 categories, you can work on yourself accordingly. The pandora’s box of self-esteem can’t be apexed because the challenges of today’s era are uncountable. Every step you take, your esteem faces a different problem. You can only stay focused and try to ace the situation by keeping your mind calm.
Your self-esteem is nothing but a play of mind. The more you believe in yourself, the more your self-esteem grows.
Never belittle your existence. Whenever you feel down, remember that you are the best creation by the Only Creator of everything that lies inside and outside of this universe.
Train your mind to remain optimistic. Take every failure and loss as a lesson.
Learn to be patient in tough times.
Learn to be grateful in easy and joyous moments.
Once you start practising these mantras, you will experience a boost in your esteem. You may not find words to describe that change, but such a change shall help you become an emotionally strong person.
Live Love, Love Life.
Later.
